Learning to Cry
The years between 18 and 23 seem to be the years we learn who we are. I don't know if it's the same for men, but for me and for many of the women I know it was a time for tears and rollercoaster emotions. I realize that much of life was that way, but it seems that at that point there were more chances to cry--more issues to face, and more tears than my body could possibly hold.
Tears are cleansing. Throughout this post I will refer to the way most women use tears, so, it may seem a bit biased, but I can't speak for men. Women use tears for many reasons, but one of the most profound is for cleansing. Often we have emotions that do not come out in any other way. What do we do with extra pain? The odd reaction in our bodies is that it comes out in a saline solution from the uppermost orifices. How that reaction works, I'm not sure, but somehow the salt pouring out of our eyes bypasses the wounds and they do not sting as much. When we are just learning who we are, we seem to cry even more. The tears pour and we often wonder HOW our bodies can hold that much fluid at a time, because clearly we didn't drink THAT much water today.
But it's part of learning... It's part of growing, and eventually we learn that crying does help, but there is a point when it will stop. We learn that we do need the tears at times to help cleanse the pain, but that we will be able to face things on our own without them sometimes. We learn that just because someone is yelling at us, or angry at us, or doesn't like us, or is just in general being an ass doesn't mean that we need to let it hurt us to the point of tears. And we learn that sometimes we can't control them. Sometimes, they are just going to fall. Sometimes our bodies know best and it knows when we need to cry.
Women often don't trust their bodies. They don't eat when the body says to eat, or they eat when the body doesn't need to eat, or they refuse the foods that the body needs. We work when the body says it is tired. We sit when it says it needs to move. Part of learning ourselves is learning to accept and approve what our bodies are telling us.
Sometimes our bodies tell us to cry.
The years between 18 and 23 seem to be the years we learn who we are. I don't know if it's the same for men, but for me and for many of the women I know it was a time for tears and rollercoaster emotions. I realize that much of life was that way, but it seems that at that point there were more chances to cry--more issues to face, and more tears than my body could possibly hold.
Tears are cleansing. Throughout this post I will refer to the way most women use tears, so, it may seem a bit biased, but I can't speak for men. Women use tears for many reasons, but one of the most profound is for cleansing. Often we have emotions that do not come out in any other way. What do we do with extra pain? The odd reaction in our bodies is that it comes out in a saline solution from the uppermost orifices. How that reaction works, I'm not sure, but somehow the salt pouring out of our eyes bypasses the wounds and they do not sting as much. When we are just learning who we are, we seem to cry even more. The tears pour and we often wonder HOW our bodies can hold that much fluid at a time, because clearly we didn't drink THAT much water today.
But it's part of learning... It's part of growing, and eventually we learn that crying does help, but there is a point when it will stop. We learn that we do need the tears at times to help cleanse the pain, but that we will be able to face things on our own without them sometimes. We learn that just because someone is yelling at us, or angry at us, or doesn't like us, or is just in general being an ass doesn't mean that we need to let it hurt us to the point of tears. And we learn that sometimes we can't control them. Sometimes, they are just going to fall. Sometimes our bodies know best and it knows when we need to cry.
Women often don't trust their bodies. They don't eat when the body says to eat, or they eat when the body doesn't need to eat, or they refuse the foods that the body needs. We work when the body says it is tired. We sit when it says it needs to move. Part of learning ourselves is learning to accept and approve what our bodies are telling us.
Sometimes our bodies tell us to cry.
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